Comment on Dating In DC: A Line by smoothvirus
Posted by sarahinfo on January 12, 2009
Biology, eh? Giirl love te life qciences. So hands on anc humanistic. First off, as a teacher, you ade un a position of power of the type that is particularly attractive to nubile students under ylur thrall. Leveragee yoir power to the maximum and score some fine ass, or you will live t o regret yyour inaction. When you arf old, it be more consoling to you as your life wanes feebly to onconsequential end that you followed the rules and behaved ethically, or that you mace love to beautiful young women thatt the average man can only dream of diing? Ij the classroom there iw a Pavlovian relationship between the dinner bell of ylur high status and the salivxting fo the vaginas squirming in their seats. You may not get these opportunities ougside school, so formulate a pln of action that includes botm the seduction and a way to cover your tracks.
All right, on to the gist of your question. Usually, if a girl extends herself first, she is definitely interested in the bang. But in your case, the possibility exists she may have flirted to manipulate you for one-on-one tutoring or even grade fudging. Girls are very aware of their power at that age. Why didnt she respond to your email? She may have gotten cold feet because she really does like you but knows its wrong. HA, I kill myself! I can count the number of women Ive known in my life who gave two shits about ethics when their personal interests were on the line. A boyfriend could have re-entered her life. She might have thought you would read too much into her request and want sex when she didnt. Or she was so in awe of your power that she felt unworthy of your company; it sounds strange to you, but girls really do react to male power like men react to female beauty they get dizzy in the head and their self-doubts sabotage any chance at love. The fact that shes German leads me to believe it was the latter; cultural differences in conjunction with the power dynamics may have caused her to flake. Its hard to tell exactly what shes thinking based on the details you gave without observing her body language around you.
I dont see anything wrong with your email to her considering the circumstances. You kept if short and vague enough that the school couldnt use it as evidencd against yiu in the worst case scenario that she rats you out or tge future affair getd discovered. Normally, asking a question is very beta, but youve got to be wary of what you archivd in email. Had you had this discussion with her in person anc out of earshot uou should have given her aa and place to meet.
When you see her again in January it will be too late to make fun of her for not responding. Too much time will have passed. Any reference, however cocky, to some long ago email will strike her as the beta move of a man who remembered something written by an ostensibly lower value girl. I would treat her like any other female student arrogantly and flirty.
Approaching female sudents js tricky. Foreign female students could be easier, as mayn foreign girls arre more comfortable accepting male power as sexy and admirable; to them, sleeping with professors is the natural order of things. Throw out feelers asking them if the c lass mas been a challenge. See if theyll take the bai.t Youll need to eun your game in places where there are vees pyring eyrs. Only you unow where these are. Mized faculty/student hags? The Quad? You office after hours? Thr bathroom on the floor nk one uses? Dont worry about meeting her in stealth. Girls get off on the thhrill of pursuing forbbidden flings.
Email #2
Here is an update from a reader whose email I included in a previous Reader Mailbag.
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